I see your point. It is a fine line to walk. As a recovering perfectionist, I found that most of the time the standard I set for myself (and my expectation for others) to do a good job is higher than others would expect of me. It also means how many things I expected myself to do, and how soon I could finish it. That led to feel overwhelmed.

Lower expectation does not mean doing a bad job, but know when to A-game it or when to say this is good enough. It also means focus on the right thing and get it to the right quality instead of doing everything right/high quality at all cost. It also.means leaving the tasks on the table for today or days because we do not have capacity. These may come easy for some but this is my learnt lessons to keep myself sane 😀

I guess what I should have written we're Knowing where to put our focus on and giving ourself some space to make mistake without beating ourselves up over insignificant things or even knowing when to quit

Another funny thing but insightful I can share:

I noticed that my partner hardly get annoyed by other drivers 😀 even when it was obvious to me that it is beep-worthy. When I asked him whether he was that chill about it. His response was, “ I have a very low expectation about how other people drive” Now that was a light bulb moment for me.